The old proverb says, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly…” (Proverbs 18:24)
Some may say: “I’m a nice person; I show myself friendly. I volunteer at church but I still only have surface relationships and no one has taken the time to get to know me outside of a casual hug and greeting.”
Well, my advice to you is to continue to show yourself friendly and don’t try to force friendships; they evolve naturally. Also, you must consider that every follower of Christ has seasons where God will limit who He allows to be in your life as He doesn’t want the wrong kind of associations to contaminate all He’s deposited inside of you.
A friend once told me, “Acacia, the reason you don’t have too many friends is because you’re ahead of the pack. You live a life that’s yielded to Jesus. And when you are consecrated unto God it makes those who are not feel uncomfortable being around you. They can’t help but to compare themselves spiritually alongside you and see where they fall short so they’d rather not be around you than change.”
So stop being down on yourself and enjoy this season of quiet solitude; take advantage of this quality time you have with God. And remember “Birds flock together but eagles soar alone.” Every great leader must endure seasons of loneliness in order to soar.