If you were to ask what’s my favorite book out of all the ones I’ve written I’d say, “Launch Out Into The Deep!” This was the first book I penned in obedience to heed the call upon my life to write books for God’s glory. This book is also a favorite as it was a collaborative effort between my brother Aaron and I. Launch Out Into The Deep was first published in 2006. I believed it to be my one and only book and never thought I’d pen a book that would match its caliber…..but God
My latest book expected to release between 2018 to 2019 is titled:
Do Not Stir Up or Awaken Love Before it’s Proper Time: Trusting God When His Answer Is Wait
Here’s a chapter excerpt from the one and only of its kind, Launch Out Into The Deep!
Chapter Title: Single, Lonely and Broken-hearted
The worst experience is to love someone and have that person reject you. It is a pain that may cut deeper than any other emotion ever known. A broken heart quite often leads to loss of appetite, depression, feeling miserable, and believing that you will never get completely over the hurt. After the initial shock of having loved and lost, we become cautious and hold on tightly to our hearts. When love interests come too close, we dodge them at every turn. We begin to think,
“I was a fool for giving my heart away,” and “Will I ever be able to love again?”
Only you can answer that question. The best way to get over the hurt is to accept the pain. Just because you lost at love does not mean you’re not a lovable person. You must believe the person was not worthy of your love, and that God has someone better planned for you. There is no need to pretend you’re not hurt, for you’ll only make yourself miserable on the inside. Agony is a normal experience. There is no need to feel ashamed. Cry, cry, and cry some more. But also remember you must put a limit to sorrow. You can’t allow one bad experience to ruin the rest of your life.
Don’t allow yourself to be like the playwright in the popular movie Moulin Rouge, who after losing the love of his life never recovered and stayed in permanent mourning. We all need counsel and help when going through a bad experience. Cry out to God and ask Him to help you get over the pain. Don’t believe for a second that God is to blame. If you trust God, He can bring some good out of the hurt. Ask God for wisdom so you won’t make the same mistake again.
It is very important to know how much God loves you. I found in my life that when I reject God, He allows others to reject me. I once cried and asked God,
“Why must I go through the hurt? I did everything for him, I’m a nice person, why can’t he love me?
“What have I ever done to you that you don’t love me?”
Many times God reaches out to us, but we reject Him. Jesus gave His life for us, but many of us fail to accept His love. It was through being rejected that I began to identify with the pain Jesus experiences.
If you are single, don’t look at it as a bad thing. You are only single once; when you walk down the wedding aisle, your life will never be the same. Once married, your ministry will be your spouse and children. For now, you are free to get in touch with yourself and seek the calling that God has intended for your life.
Enter into marriage as a whole person. Don’t expect marriage to be the cure for all your hurts. The only person who can heal you from the pains of your past is Jesus. If you’re not happy and whole before marriage, don’t expect to be afterwards.
Selah: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34: 18).
Words of the wise: “Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.” -George Washington
BROKEN HEARTED (A Poem) By Aaron Slaton Jr.
As she stays in an unhealthy relationship, the hurt continues to grow. They have been together over ten years, but tonight he’s not here. Before he left, he told her he would be home soon, but she knew they were just lies in her ear. What is her limit? How much more can she take? Only God knows.
She’s packed up her clothes and prepared to live on her own. She’s spoke to her girlfriend about the situation on the phone. She was convinced to leave at the end of the conversation. Then she thought about seeking him in the night but avoided the temptation.
She unpacked her clothes and laid on the bed, then she thought about the convincing words he’d said. I’ll change for the better just give me some time. But she knew deep inside it was just another line; she’s heard time after time.
It’s two in the morning, she should be getting some rest, but there are so many things she wants to get off her chest. Her family told her to leave him a long time ago; But she’s concerned about him and said,
“Where will he go?” “Does he care about me?” she lays and wonders while her self-esteem is steadily going under.
Tomorrow is a new day. A new day for change. But she keeps trying to figure things out which brings stress to her brain. I pray she will leave this unhealthy relationship. No ring on her finger —she’s still waiting to take that trip down the aisle to get married, but he keeps saying he’s not ready. The pain continues to grow inside of her. It’s real heavy.
Selah: “There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18: 24).
Words of the Wise: “The love you can’t have lasts the longest, feels the strongest and hurts the most.”-Author unknown
FALSE HOPES by Aaron Slaton Jr.
Her heart is broken, torn to pieces; when he steps through the door all the crying ceases. The hurt turns to anger now she seems like a stranger.
Where have you been? Was the question she asked. He defends himself so the argument lasts. He tell lies and comes up with alibis; to her he’s just a wolf in disguise. She knows she can do better, but she can’t let him go. She says this is the end, but the next day they start all over again.
Selah: “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book” (Psalm 56: 8).
Words of the Wise: “A man is never worth your tears. And the one who is, won’t make you cry.” -Author unknown